July 28, 2014

Gay Marriage Hasn't Affected My Union:
How about you?

I ran across a brilliant piece that talked about the dangers of same sex marriage. Tim Johnson really explained exactly what we all have to fear from gay marriage.

Johnson says:
Later this week, my wife and I will celebrate 10 years of marriage. It's a special milestone, and the positive feelings associated with it are difficult to put into words.
He goes on to say:
A couple of weeks from now, it will have been one year since Minnesota law was changed so people of the same gender can marry one another. One of the claims made in the debate about the legalization of same-gender marriage in Minnesota was it would ruin "traditional marriage." I believe the union between my wife and me fits the expectations of a "traditional marriage." 
I'm happy to report the change in the law did not negatively affect our marriage. I didn't expect it to. 
Mr. Johnson, I couldn't agree more.

My husband and I have been married for two years now, and together for a total of eight. How has gay marriage affected us?

Not at all, not in the slightest.

 A while back, before I started this blog, I wrote up a Facebook note called "10 Signs that Gay Marriage Hurts No One". Here's what I came up with:

10. States that have supported gay marriage have not seen a spike in cataclysmic natural disasters. Also lacking are swarms of locusts, rivers of blood, and (perhaps most notably) blacking out of the sun. 
9. Murderers and sex offenders are allowed to marry. Rapists and thieves are allowed to marry. If you consider homosexuality a sin, these are too. But they are allowed to marry simply because they are attracted to the opposite sex. Loving someone being put on the same level as these activities...it's about as mind-boggling as trying to understand a Mel Gibson alcohol-fueled anti-Semitic rant. 
8. Homosexual behavior has been observed in over 1,500 species--and is well-documented in over 500 of them. Including penguins. Sweet little cuddly gay penguins. 
7. If marriage isn't a right, how would you like to have it disbarred for you? Make it difficult for a spouse to immigrate...for making major purchasing decisions together...adopting children. And at the end of it all, if your spouse is injured or dying, you'll have no access to them and no say in their treatment and care. Giving people more rights has never killed anyone. Taking them away--or withholding them to begin with--has. Ask Jews in Nazi Germany...or slaves in the southern US before the Civil War (and freedmen after)...or Mayans in Central America. Scotsmen in years gone by. 
6. Homosexuality is mentioned in the Bible in the same chapter as admonitions against eating shellfish and pork. No one's died as a result of gay marriage, but people do sometimes die from shellfish related diseases like neurotoxic shellfish poisoning, paralytic shellfish poisoning, and (my personal favorite) diarrhetic shellfish poisoning. Let's all picket Red Lobster next! ((In the New Testament, Paul describes it as "unnatural"...the same way that he describes men with long hair and women with short hair. No deaths currently attributable to those either.)) 
Also, you can pry my bacon from my cold, dead hands. 
5. No kid ever died from having a loving, stable, two-parent home. 
4. No one has died from Kim Kardashian's and Britney Spears' micro-marriages slaughtering the sanctity of marriage, so it seems highly doubtful that anyone will be killed by loving couples being united in the eyes of the law, including some couples that have been together for decades. 
3. Deprivation of religious freedom? Talk to Christians and Baha'i practitioners in Iran. Religious freedom should not be confused with forcing your moral code on folks that adhere to other faiths. Would you like for Wiccans to force the observance of Samhain or Muslims to call for every woman to wear a headdress or Buddhists to require everyone to learn the 4 Noble Truths and the Eightfold Path? 
2. If homosexuality is such a sin, why the heck are people so set on making sure they stay less miserable than the rest of us? 
1. And last but not least, not allowing gay marriage doesn't make anyone less gay. It just deprives folks of their Constitutionally protected right to the pursuit of happiness...
 My reasoning was off on a few of the points, but remember, I was in the midst of my journey. The idea still rings true: no matter the reasoning, the simple fact is that marriage equality hurts no one. Giving people rights doesn't hurt anyone. Equality hurts no one.

I stand by that.

So, tell me, how has marriage equality affected you?

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